Shortly after Christmas, one of my ribs popped during a very mild exercise routine! Needless to say, I was quite perplexed. None of my ribs have ever popped in my entire life, and the exercise I did was minimally stressful to the body!
However, the inconvenience and the pain that the injury caused put quite a dent in my daily routine: difficulty getting in and out of bed and car, and when I needed to turn to look around, I needed to turn my entire body instead of just the head.
Luckily, I thought of doing Self- Brainspotting to see if I could heal myself. After a few minutes on the brain spot, a wave of sadness overpowered me, though I had no idea what the sadness was about, I invited it to express itself through tons of sobbing.
As soon as that wave of sadness calmed down, a light bulb went on in my head! I was able to put together the life event which has been contributing to the injury! During that Ah-ha moment, there was a distinct feeling in my body that the rib went back into its socket in the vertebrae in a sloooow motion. Then, the relief of pain was immediate!
So, what showed up in that Ah-ha moment?
Peipei, our 17-year-old dog, has been really sick throughout Christmas. We basically said our goodbyes to her as we witnessed her losing weight to just skin and bones. Even though she was skinny, it was easily covered up with her fluffy coat. In order to know how much weight she has lost, I would feel her one rib on the left side which was born congenitally protruded. The skinnier she got, that rib stuck out more.
The rib I popped was also on the left side and about the same location as Peipei's protruded rib.
Although at first, I did not link the two events together, however, when I was able to release emotionally through sobbing what my body has been carrying, the weeks of worry, grief, fear, impending loss, relief, and waiting associated with Peipei's condition, my brain was able to release subcortically and the rib followed the neurological signal to go back into its rightful place, no more protrusion!
This is the story I tell my students when I teach "Intro to Brainspotting"! It is a very empowered feeling that one can heal oneself just with Brainspotting!
To date, my little old girl is still alive, though still weak, but eating food! We respect her own timing.
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My parents are getting old. Especially with my Dad being 96, I can't help but wonder what my life would be like without him.
I have been blessed that in my entire life of more than 60 years, I have never lived without my father or my mother.
My own mortality is also hitting home more these days. I have always embraced life and have never been fearful of death; however, I am not sure what to expect during the transition from life to death. So, I completed a session with my coach about what it would be like taking my last breath, the moment of transition from life to death.
I wanted to explore that topic for reasons of spirituality, preparation, and for exploration of my inner being.
Both Brainspotting and Medical Constellation are such excellent tools to access the Subcortical brain and the Knowing Field, so I chose these modalities to do my intended exploratory work.
What came through during the coaching session was not what I had expected. The moment of taking my last breath, what was hardest for me was to let go of my attachment to the love of my daughters. It broke my heart having to say goodbye to them. That cord was so strong thus very difficult to break, wrought with grief, separation anxiety, and a deep yearning to be always together.
While I was in that state, there was another strong pull forcing me to go to the next realm with the Divine Source. I felt torn between the two realms, heaven and earth, not free, stuck in the middle.
I decided to try to focus all of my attention on and toward the Divine Source, then interestingly, a sense of complete peace, joy and freedom came over me. What happened next was again not what I had expected, the love and connection with my daughters not only did not diffuse, rather, it strengthened.
I was no longer in a tug of war, pulled in two opposite directions. Instead, with me moving toward the Divine Source, my daughters became also intimately connected to the Source in a beautiful way. The flow of love became easy and effortless, no duality, no confusion, and no feeling of being torn apart.
After this session, there was such peace in my soul because I now know in my body that separation is a perception only. Being in alignment with the Higher Source keeps my love aligned in both directions, toward heaven and descending down to earth.
Coincidentally, this prayer presented itself to me:
“If thou lovest Me ….. that thou mayest die in Me and I may eternally live in thee”
~ Hidden Words of Bahaullah
My personal conclusion: Life is GOOD, so is DEATH! Transition is all about ALIGNMENT!
Wishing you well!
The following are true stories of the clients I have served. Their identities have been concealed but the lessons learned from their stories may have resonance to your situation or your loved ones.
True story about Lisa’s chronic neck pain-
When I saw Lisa, she has already been on an intensive search for alleviating her chronic neck and shoulder pain for 3 years.
Nothing has produced sustained relief despite seeing various doctors, physiotherapists, chiropractic specialists, and taking tons of supplements.
I used a relatively new technique called Brainspotting with Lisa, finding a brain spot correlating with the most intense pain in her neck.
Soon, memories of deep pain and grief associated with hardship in childhood came through like a faucet.
Within a few sessions, Lisa’s neck pain reduced by 75% which allowed her to take her kids out on hikes something she was not able to do for years.
Needless to say that Lisa was thrilled about her new found freedom from pain!
True story about Susan’s chronic neck pain-
Susan is smart, hardworking and loves her job. She was never aware of the invisible pull which has been gradually increasing from the small company where she worked for the past 15 years.
Because of Susan’s devotion, she not only increased her workload but also started to branch into business management, and soon managing her boss’ wellbeing by making sure that her boss is seeing mental health professionals to keep his addiction under control.
Susan suffered chronic fatigue, brain fog, and digestive issues which she often blames as “Lyme flare ups”.
When I coached Susan, it became clear to Susan that her whole being was "off-center".
She had been pulled forward energetically by her employer resulting in her constant and unrelenting tension in the head, neck, and back areas.
After Susan was made aware that she had crossed her boundary as an employee, and that by “mothering” her boss, she lost herself in this no-win fight to keep the company afloat which was not hers to begin with.
Susan became clear with what was in alignment with her highest wellbeing and made plans to change her employment choices.
She is now enjoying life and no longer incurring tons of medical bills which resulted from “being off-center”.
True story about Linda’s chronic neck pain-
Linda is an attractive, spiritual and accomplished professional. She complained of feeling listless, anxious, and suffered chronic neck and back pain.
When I inquired about the chronic pain, Linda said that it felt like she was carrying bricks on her shoulders. I asked: How heavy are those bricks? Linda: About 50 lbs.
Just imagine if you carried 50 extra lbs. of burden on you body day in and day out, how they would affect your energy level, your posture, and your mood?
Through the process of Medical Constellation, Linda realized that those burdens were not hers but her mother’s who went through difficult tests in life such as deportation, divorce, and extreme family upheavals.
Linda peeled through layers of grief, disappointment, and guilt which belonged to her mother.
Eventually, Susan was able to find peace when she said to her mother in a meditation: Dear mom, I leave those bricks with you where they belong. There is nothing I can do to lift them for you. However, I will live a liberated life, in honor of you!
What is the truth behind YOUR chronic neck pain?
As you can see, though the symptoms of chronic neck pain may be the same, each individual has different root cause for their pain.
In order to transform your pain to wisdom, you need a skilled coach who is well versed in deep understanding of systemic language of the body-mind-spirit.
I have helped hundreds of people liberate their chronic pain, transform their pain to wisdom, and their wisdom to alignment, so they can live their soulful purpose in life.
No matter what chronic suffering you are experiencing, it is with joy and honor that I invite you for a one-on-one private “Assessment and Strategy” session with me.